This past Sunday we had a open house, good bye party for our son, Noah and his wife Kristen. It was at best bitter sweet...............
Sherrie, my wife, baked for 3 days, she had decided that it would be a dessert open house. We had cookies, cake, pies, candy, diabetic cake, the table was laden with all of the goodies. Myself, I was in charge of the beverages. I made my famous citrus punch, chilled the wine, made coffee, iced tea, and hot tea. I Made sure all the glasses were spotless, my OCD kicking in , I hate glasses with spots.
I was also responsible for the fresh flower arrangements. You cannot have a party in my humble opinion without fresh flowers, it just is the exclamation point on the table.
So we got everything ready, and actually we were done early, note to self this does not happen very often, more often than not we are putting the final touches on things as the first guest arrives. You know the old adage that we work better under pressure, NOT. But we do it anyway.
So we get to sit and talk a bit as we wait for the kids to arrive and then the guests.
We talk about what this move will do for our family structure, and holidays, and just talk. I mention that we will not be able to call them on Saturday mornings and say, Hey you want to meet us at our favorite local place for breakfast.... no more calling for impromptu invitations to dinner and all the things that we will not be doing once they move. And just in the nick of time, the door bell rings, I was starting to feel sad, gloomy, and viola!!! saved by the door bell. Noah and Kristen arrive, and with them excitement for this move, excitement for a new adventure, excitement for a huge promotion with the new job. I try to grab onto their excitement, be happy for them, I want to be as excited as they are.
The door bell continues to ring, old friends come by, family comes by, new friends come by and it is non stop from 2 pm all the way til 8:30 pm. Well wishes, hand shakes, hugs, kisses all around everyone sharing in the kids excitement, and I watch.
I watch my son, so proud of himself, and his wife that they are in this economy moving upward in his career, moving up in the salary structure. I watch as family and friends share the happiness and excitement with them. And for a moment in time I stop and tell myself, this is what you raised him for, this is what you always wanted for your son, for him to be happy in his career, for him to find someone to love and share his life with, for him to be independent. I take it all in and I smile for the first time that day I smile, because I feel for a moment in time that I might have got it right, made some good decisions along the way as he was growing up. I felt proud of the man my little boy has become, felt proud of the person he was and will continue to be. Felt proud of the person he chose for his wife, Kristen is his yang in the yin and yang of life, they fit together, they love each other.
And at the end of the day, end of the party, I knew they would be alright, that in this big world, these 2 kids will move on and make their mark on the world. I am so proud, and yet sad at the same time, this too will pass, we will make the trip to Fresno many times to see them, see their new life, and be proud of who they have become and smile as I watch them make their way in this journey called life.
Blessings to you and yours
Curtis
Wednesday, February 23, 2011
Tuesday, February 15, 2011
Valentine's Day the day after Post
I was going to do this post yesterday but the day got away from me.......so here it is.
Yesterday was Valentine's Day..... begin the harps and love song melodies...... And while we do celebrate this day and love it, I want to propose something else, something more.
What would happen if we celebrated our loved ones every day? If we took the time to stop and tell them that we love them? we appreciate them? I for one think the world just might be a better place. We seem to have time for everything else.... television, computer games, running errands, so why don't we make time for LOVE?
It is my hope that maybe just maybe this year you would leave a love note for your spouse, child, parent, just because. That you would buy your significant other flowers just because, and if the season is right you don't have to buy them you can just pick a bouquet right from your own yard, or if you have a nice neighbor who has an abundance of flowers you might be able to talk them out of some flowers.
Taking the time to make others feel special, appreciated needs to be done all the time not just one day a year.
So take the time, make the time, make a plan, just do it!!! Make someone feel loved, appreciated, thought of, it will make their day!
Here is to hoping that this year you celebrate LOVE all year long!
Blessings to you and yours
Curtis & Sherrie
Yesterday was Valentine's Day..... begin the harps and love song melodies...... And while we do celebrate this day and love it, I want to propose something else, something more.
What would happen if we celebrated our loved ones every day? If we took the time to stop and tell them that we love them? we appreciate them? I for one think the world just might be a better place. We seem to have time for everything else.... television, computer games, running errands, so why don't we make time for LOVE?
It is my hope that maybe just maybe this year you would leave a love note for your spouse, child, parent, just because. That you would buy your significant other flowers just because, and if the season is right you don't have to buy them you can just pick a bouquet right from your own yard, or if you have a nice neighbor who has an abundance of flowers you might be able to talk them out of some flowers.
Taking the time to make others feel special, appreciated needs to be done all the time not just one day a year.
So take the time, make the time, make a plan, just do it!!! Make someone feel loved, appreciated, thought of, it will make their day!
Here is to hoping that this year you celebrate LOVE all year long!
Blessings to you and yours
Curtis & Sherrie
Friday, February 11, 2011
Northern California and Beautiful Weather!
I live in Northern California, the REAL Northern California. We are up on the far end of the state and it is BEAUTIFUL up here. Lots of tree's, fresh air, lakes, mountains, and wild life, I just LOVE it here and really cannot imagine living anywhere else.
We have had for the last 3 weeks weather that is just beyond words. While the rest of the country is surviving in blizzards, and temperatures below zero, we have been basking in 65 to 75 degree weather. The sun has shined and we have loved it!!!
While we do get snow, lots of rain, and at times in the summer, blistering hot weather, it can get to 115 and on rare occasions even 120 degrees here in the summer. But truth be told we only have those extremes for about 3 weeks. The rest of the time we have the best of all worlds weather wise.
Where else can you, in February sit on your deck and enjoy a glass of wine with the sun shining on your warming you to the deepest depths of your soul? Or where else can you work in your yard, and then go to the nursery and be disappointed because they do not have any flowers for you put out.... but then it is February...
I putter around my yard looking for signs that the ground has warmed up enough to get my bulbs pushing up from the earth, I trim my roses in hopes that come April, May I will have arm loads of blooms to bring to my wife to put in vases around our house so that it perfumes our home. I only grow roses that are both beautiful and fragrant.... no slackers allowed! Nothing makes me smile more than having grown my own flowers to grace our home. At this time of year I do buy hot house blooms, only because I need, want to be able to have fresh flowers in our home. It just makes me smile when I have fresh flowers to see, smell, and enjoy.
So as I read blogs from others across the country dealing with snow as tall as my fence, and temperatures so cold I cannot even imagine... I smile and try not to gloat that we are having such wonderful weather. And really I do wonder why people live in places where weather is like that ??? so cold ? My brother lives in South Dakota, and I talk to him weekly, he always asks what the weather is like and then gets grouchy when I tell him. What is wrong with him ??? He was raised here in this area of great weather..... oh yeah his wife is from South Dakota and loves it there..
I need to get that glass of wine and sit on my deck for these last few days of this impostor Spring as I call it. Because next week we will have cold temperatures, oh my, down in the 50's and it will be raining, but we need the rain. I want all of my roses, hosta's, and bulbs to be watered by a gentle rain...... My wife and I do love a good rain storm, fire place blazing with the rain coming down washing everything making it new and clean.... ahhhh!!!
Oh yeah if you are thinking about moving here, well don't.... I mean you would not want to put up with the extreme heat in the summer now would you??? Disregard my bragging about our wonderful weather in February..... oh for the glorious Sun!!!
Blessings and Sunshine to you and yours
Curtis
We have had for the last 3 weeks weather that is just beyond words. While the rest of the country is surviving in blizzards, and temperatures below zero, we have been basking in 65 to 75 degree weather. The sun has shined and we have loved it!!!
While we do get snow, lots of rain, and at times in the summer, blistering hot weather, it can get to 115 and on rare occasions even 120 degrees here in the summer. But truth be told we only have those extremes for about 3 weeks. The rest of the time we have the best of all worlds weather wise.
Where else can you, in February sit on your deck and enjoy a glass of wine with the sun shining on your warming you to the deepest depths of your soul? Or where else can you work in your yard, and then go to the nursery and be disappointed because they do not have any flowers for you put out.... but then it is February...
I putter around my yard looking for signs that the ground has warmed up enough to get my bulbs pushing up from the earth, I trim my roses in hopes that come April, May I will have arm loads of blooms to bring to my wife to put in vases around our house so that it perfumes our home. I only grow roses that are both beautiful and fragrant.... no slackers allowed! Nothing makes me smile more than having grown my own flowers to grace our home. At this time of year I do buy hot house blooms, only because I need, want to be able to have fresh flowers in our home. It just makes me smile when I have fresh flowers to see, smell, and enjoy.
So as I read blogs from others across the country dealing with snow as tall as my fence, and temperatures so cold I cannot even imagine... I smile and try not to gloat that we are having such wonderful weather. And really I do wonder why people live in places where weather is like that ??? so cold ? My brother lives in South Dakota, and I talk to him weekly, he always asks what the weather is like and then gets grouchy when I tell him. What is wrong with him ??? He was raised here in this area of great weather..... oh yeah his wife is from South Dakota and loves it there..
I need to get that glass of wine and sit on my deck for these last few days of this impostor Spring as I call it. Because next week we will have cold temperatures, oh my, down in the 50's and it will be raining, but we need the rain. I want all of my roses, hosta's, and bulbs to be watered by a gentle rain...... My wife and I do love a good rain storm, fire place blazing with the rain coming down washing everything making it new and clean.... ahhhh!!!
Oh yeah if you are thinking about moving here, well don't.... I mean you would not want to put up with the extreme heat in the summer now would you??? Disregard my bragging about our wonderful weather in February..... oh for the glorious Sun!!!
Blessings and Sunshine to you and yours
Curtis
Thursday, February 3, 2011
Kids all grown up
So we have had a week to digest the news that our oldest son is moving to a new city, not a long time but enough time for it to sink in.
We are both so proud and excited for our son and his wife, our buttons are bursting!! Noah is a good kid, has always had a plan, and always worked that plan, so it was no surprise when he decided it was time to move on that he got so many interviews, all over the United States. We are just feeling so blessed that he accepted the offer that keeps he and his wife in California.
My wife Sherrie and I have had long discussions about them moving, what it means to us, to them, and how it affects our life as parents and one day grand parents.
You see we chose to live here in Redding because that is where our family is. Our sons were able to get to know their Great Grandparents, spend time with both sets of Grandparents and form relationships with them. We felt that the connection to family was very important and that being able to spend time with them in person was the only way to forge that bond.
Fast forward 26 years,with the Internet, skype, face book, twitter, and all of the other electronic things that we have today you can still forge a relationship with people. Now a little disclaimer, I do not think that the relationship is as good as being able to see, feel, laugh, cry with someone in person. But it will be our option for keeping in touch with them as they continue on in their journey called life.
So my wife and decided that we will have to make the change, get more computer savvy, and come into the new generation of relationships. I do not go into this without reservation, but I will try.
Life has a way of always keeping you on your toes doesn't it? I mean who knew, say 5 years ago that I would be writing a blog? Let alone writing about feelings, and intimate family dynamics? But we all change, and it is a good change.
The day my mother died 16 years ago, as I was leaving the hospital, I turned on the radio in the car and a song came on that I had not heard before, the singers catch phrase was: "Life is about changing nothing ever stays the same". It was so difficult to hear those words that day as my life had changed dramatically.
And now some 16 years later I find myself telling myself this same thing, Curtis life is about changing nothing ever stays the same. And for the good or bad, life does change, it is how we meet these changes that makes a difference. We can fight them or decide that maybe.....just maybe ..... this change will be good for me, make me a better person, make me see something that I have not seen before.....
So I hope that life continues to change, continues to make me grow, continues to offer more opportunities because of the change. I by nature do not like change, but I will try harder to embrace it and welcome it into my life. God has a plan, He is in control, so I just need to be able to live and let go.....
How about you? Do you embrace change? Look for the good in it? Or are you like me just a little, and resist the change a bit? I hope that we all can grow from change be it good or bad, because as the song says...........
Life is about changing NOTHING ever stays the same.
Blessings to you and yours
Curtis
We are both so proud and excited for our son and his wife, our buttons are bursting!! Noah is a good kid, has always had a plan, and always worked that plan, so it was no surprise when he decided it was time to move on that he got so many interviews, all over the United States. We are just feeling so blessed that he accepted the offer that keeps he and his wife in California.
My wife Sherrie and I have had long discussions about them moving, what it means to us, to them, and how it affects our life as parents and one day grand parents.
You see we chose to live here in Redding because that is where our family is. Our sons were able to get to know their Great Grandparents, spend time with both sets of Grandparents and form relationships with them. We felt that the connection to family was very important and that being able to spend time with them in person was the only way to forge that bond.
Fast forward 26 years,with the Internet, skype, face book, twitter, and all of the other electronic things that we have today you can still forge a relationship with people. Now a little disclaimer, I do not think that the relationship is as good as being able to see, feel, laugh, cry with someone in person. But it will be our option for keeping in touch with them as they continue on in their journey called life.
So my wife and decided that we will have to make the change, get more computer savvy, and come into the new generation of relationships. I do not go into this without reservation, but I will try.
Life has a way of always keeping you on your toes doesn't it? I mean who knew, say 5 years ago that I would be writing a blog? Let alone writing about feelings, and intimate family dynamics? But we all change, and it is a good change.
The day my mother died 16 years ago, as I was leaving the hospital, I turned on the radio in the car and a song came on that I had not heard before, the singers catch phrase was: "Life is about changing nothing ever stays the same". It was so difficult to hear those words that day as my life had changed dramatically.
And now some 16 years later I find myself telling myself this same thing, Curtis life is about changing nothing ever stays the same. And for the good or bad, life does change, it is how we meet these changes that makes a difference. We can fight them or decide that maybe.....just maybe ..... this change will be good for me, make me a better person, make me see something that I have not seen before.....
So I hope that life continues to change, continues to make me grow, continues to offer more opportunities because of the change. I by nature do not like change, but I will try harder to embrace it and welcome it into my life. God has a plan, He is in control, so I just need to be able to live and let go.....
How about you? Do you embrace change? Look for the good in it? Or are you like me just a little, and resist the change a bit? I hope that we all can grow from change be it good or bad, because as the song says...........
Life is about changing NOTHING ever stays the same.
Blessings to you and yours
Curtis
Tuesday, January 25, 2011
New Beginnings, Our Oldest Son moves on
I wrote a few months ago that our oldest son was looking for a new job, one that would futher his career in broadcast news production. Well after flying across the country a couple of times, and many interviews both on the phone and in person, he has now been offered a new job. This news,(no pun intended)is bittersweet, because we, my wife and I know that he probably never will live in the same city as we do again.
We are so proud of him, and so excited for the new and wonderful things that he and his wife are going to be doing, but at the same time a bit sad. But today I will only write about the exciting things in store for my son and daughter in law.
Neither of them have ever lived anywhere but here in their home town, so to say that this will be an adventure is an understatement. As I think of all of the fun and exciting things they will be able to do I get happy for them. They will be making new friends, finding new places to shop, eat out, play, take the dogs to, new places to hang out on their weekends. They are moving into adulthood big time.
Noah, our son, has always wanted to live in a BIG city, and experience that lifestyle, and he will do great in a new city. He is adventurous, as is his wife, they like to go and find new places to explore, go on drives to find places to hike, and play with their two dogs. Noah will be at this new job for at least 3 years, as he is signing a contract for that amount of time, and then he will probably move to another market.
As I write this I have mixed emotions. My oldest son is moving away to follow his dream, and for that I am so proud and excited for him. But then there is this part of me that just wants all of my family in the same place, comfortable, easily accessible, able to call them on a Saturday and go to breakfast with them, able to celebrate birthdays, holidays with them. But I know I have had my children with me and my wife in the same town longer than a lot of people do. So I am going to put on my big boys pants and learn to deal.
I will miss him and his wife, but this is THEIR Journery in this journey called life...........
New beginnings, and new hopes await them, we will pray for them as we send them off on thier journey, that they reach the new heights and goals that they have set for themselves.....
Noah and Kristen we love you, and will miss you more than you know
We are so proud of him, and so excited for the new and wonderful things that he and his wife are going to be doing, but at the same time a bit sad. But today I will only write about the exciting things in store for my son and daughter in law.
Neither of them have ever lived anywhere but here in their home town, so to say that this will be an adventure is an understatement. As I think of all of the fun and exciting things they will be able to do I get happy for them. They will be making new friends, finding new places to shop, eat out, play, take the dogs to, new places to hang out on their weekends. They are moving into adulthood big time.
Noah, our son, has always wanted to live in a BIG city, and experience that lifestyle, and he will do great in a new city. He is adventurous, as is his wife, they like to go and find new places to explore, go on drives to find places to hike, and play with their two dogs. Noah will be at this new job for at least 3 years, as he is signing a contract for that amount of time, and then he will probably move to another market.
As I write this I have mixed emotions. My oldest son is moving away to follow his dream, and for that I am so proud and excited for him. But then there is this part of me that just wants all of my family in the same place, comfortable, easily accessible, able to call them on a Saturday and go to breakfast with them, able to celebrate birthdays, holidays with them. But I know I have had my children with me and my wife in the same town longer than a lot of people do. So I am going to put on my big boys pants and learn to deal.
I will miss him and his wife, but this is THEIR Journery in this journey called life...........
New beginnings, and new hopes await them, we will pray for them as we send them off on thier journey, that they reach the new heights and goals that they have set for themselves.....
Noah and Kristen we love you, and will miss you more than you know
Tuesday, January 4, 2011
New Beginnings, Fresh Starts
Ahh so the Holidays have come and gone, have you got all of your decorations taken down and put away for another year??
I love Christmas, and all the trappings that go with it, but I must say that after the big day I am ready to take everything down and get our house back to " normal" what ever that is. As we pack away all of our decorations that we were so anxious to get out at the beginning of the month, I am not sad to say good bye til next year.
Then it is off to the New Year. The New Year has a double meaning to me as January first is my birthday. So as the week closes in on a New Year, I am thinking about the year that has just passed, and what it has meant to me, both good and bad.
And then I start thinking about the upcoming year and all of its possibilities. What it will bring, who will come into our lives, who will we have to say good bye to. But it also holds the promise of new friendships, of renewing old friendships, of mending fences, and just enjoying the moment.
I at times find myself always waiting for the nest big thing.... and I sometimes forget to just relax and enjoy the moment. Do you do that? Or is it just me? I at times rush through things, events and when they are done I look around and say to myself why did you go so fast, why did you not linger a little longer?
So this year I am NOT making any resolutions, I gave that up years ago. But this year I will try to enjoy each moment, each person, each event, and when the time or event is over I will be able to say wow that was great, I really enjoyed ________ fill in the blank.
So as we all start anew, with 2011 may all of us make sure that we take the time to slow down and enjoy the things that God offers us. Life really is meant to be enjoyed and not endured.
Take the time to slow down and relish relationships, and people..............
Blessings to you and yours
Curtis & Sherrie
Happy 2011!!!!
I love Christmas, and all the trappings that go with it, but I must say that after the big day I am ready to take everything down and get our house back to " normal" what ever that is. As we pack away all of our decorations that we were so anxious to get out at the beginning of the month, I am not sad to say good bye til next year.
Then it is off to the New Year. The New Year has a double meaning to me as January first is my birthday. So as the week closes in on a New Year, I am thinking about the year that has just passed, and what it has meant to me, both good and bad.
And then I start thinking about the upcoming year and all of its possibilities. What it will bring, who will come into our lives, who will we have to say good bye to. But it also holds the promise of new friendships, of renewing old friendships, of mending fences, and just enjoying the moment.
I at times find myself always waiting for the nest big thing.... and I sometimes forget to just relax and enjoy the moment. Do you do that? Or is it just me? I at times rush through things, events and when they are done I look around and say to myself why did you go so fast, why did you not linger a little longer?
So this year I am NOT making any resolutions, I gave that up years ago. But this year I will try to enjoy each moment, each person, each event, and when the time or event is over I will be able to say wow that was great, I really enjoyed ________ fill in the blank.
So as we all start anew, with 2011 may all of us make sure that we take the time to slow down and enjoy the things that God offers us. Life really is meant to be enjoyed and not endured.
Take the time to slow down and relish relationships, and people..............
Blessings to you and yours
Curtis & Sherrie
Happy 2011!!!!
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